Ahoy! For a moment imagine the following: You are aboard a ship sailing the ocean. The brightness and warmth of the sun, the water moving the ship from side to side, waves crashing loudly against the bow of the ship and the smell and taste of sea water. You are the captain – your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind, the feeling mind is your first mate. Your body and mind, from moment to moment expressing in your thoughts, words and actions are the sailors, the sails, the rudders, the ship itself.
Now with no course set this ship is just drifting, getting carried along by the wind and currents – wherever these forces take it. This can also be interesting. Yet if there is a certain harbor we would like to reach in our life then it is good to have maximum clarity about everything concerning our goal. If we are not clear about what we want then we might run into any harbor: we might not even know the difference! If the captain does not know where the ship is going, how should the crew? So knowing this imagine you choose a proper destination and then plot a course. Then you go to your first mate and casually tell him. The first mate forwards your orders and takes care of the details. If there is a gross course correction you have to tell him, but overall he knows where you are heading and he can work on his own. And he does! Even when the course you have communicated to him is actually not satisfying to you! Many captains do not really communicate properly with their first mate: in a focused way and with a clear intention, so he can understand what you want. This is the reason their first mate is confused. He does not know how to set the proper course, this is your job. Doing his best he only knows how to execute. Vague orders lead to a vague execution, leading you into a harbour you might not want to be in.
Let us assume the chain of command is working flawlessly. I agree, there can be situations where we are really trying to reach a certain goal and we are stuck with subconscious programming that points in a different direction – that actually associates pain and negativity with what we want to create – for whatever reason or past experience. Even in this case I suggest to keep clarifying and communicating your goal and to simply allow for change and dissolution of those past patterns and emotions by accepting them and the impact they have had on your life until now.
So…would you agree that for the captain it is useful to know the destination when he embarks on a voyage? Okay. Would you also agree that it is important to vividly and clearly tell the first mate about this goal, so he can take care of getting the right orders executed and for the ship to arrive at the target harbour? Let me show you a beautiful and really effective way to do just that in your own life!
Have a ritual. A ritual is a predetermined little process that you do at a certain time and for a certain purpose. As you do it regularly it becomes a habit. The subconscious mind loves habits. It understands them. This is a little similar to the NLP-concept of anchors. I will not go into depth on why this works as well as it does and simply explain the ritual to you. I originally got this from a guy called Burt Goldman, who is an amazing, now 88 year old hypnotherapist (as well as painter and photographer) from the United States. Here you can see a video where he explains this technique, he calls “The Bagha”. Now let us get into the technique itself (which takes about 3 minutes to execute):
When in a situation where you feel the need for change and to set a strong intention of what it is that you want do the following. If you are listening to the audio version of this article (you can find the link at the bottom of this page) just follow along with my voice:
- Take three deep and conscious breaths. Allow your body to breathe out on its own and feel the relaxation which is arising as you let go. Close your eyes at the same time as you let your third breath.
- Touch the upper part of your palate (gums) with the tip of your tongue, right where there is a little slope. Find a spot that feels good to you and: Always use that same spot!
- Begin to imagine the goal or most-optimal outcome in your mind as a present situation (like it has already happened). How do you know you have succeeded? By seeing, hearing, feeling, saying what? Take a few minutes to really do this so you can get a feel for it or until you reach clarity and it sounds just right to you. It might not be easy at first and some distracting thoughts might pop up. This is alright. If you can hold the image or get a distinct feel for your desired outcome for just a second or two it is fine!
- Relax your tongue and open your eyes. Smile… Done! You just programmed your <RAS>.
What does this do?
- As this ritual becomes a habit you easily and quickly go into a more relaxed state of mind whenever you need to and transmit an intention to your subconscious – which is receptive and open to your input when you are relaxed. Closing your eyes is important as it facilitates entering an alpha state (a pleasant state of light relaxation and calm concentration). You can do this any time during the day and in almost any situation!
- You get in the habit of purposeful thinking: “What do I want out of this situation?” It is very powerful to know exactly what it is that you want. Most people do not.
- You course-correct and let go of the past. You will realize that often you might have anticipated a negative outcome (because in the past this situation might have been challenging). Now you can change that and meet the moment with renewed strength and a clear intention ready for a different outcome.
- As a pleasant side effect you will dissolve stress by relaxing and breathing for a few moments during your day.
So remember: If you start using this regularly before long you will see results that are going to completely amaze you. Believe me. It has been like this for me. Try it out for yourself and have an amazing day (full of seafaring meddafors metaphors).